A NOT-SO-MILD RANT ABOUT STIGMA AND ROMANCE

Buckle up, bitches. It’s going to be a wild ride.

Let me set the scene for you. Lil’ ole me, avoiding studying and all of my responsibilities on this rainy Thursday morning, browsing my Netgalley books (for those of you that don’t know, Netgalley is a site where you can request Advanced Reader Copies of books in exchange for an honest review). I clicked on one and wanted to see what other reviewers were saying.

AND THEN I HAD AN INSTANT RAGE FEST.

So let’s break this bullshit down.

Bustle wrote an excellent piece on Women’s Fiction that I would recommend reading. The term “chick lit” is inherently misogynistic and condescending, implying that books by women with a female central character do not have the same merit as books just placed in the title “fiction.”

Guess what? I can have a vagina, fall in love, be a total hilarious mess, and still deal with real world issues that are just as valid as any man’s. But that’s a woman’s role, isn’t it? To be pigeonholed into these patriarchal constructs of frivolous femininity while silently dealing with the extensive issues of prejudice, the domestic realm, careers, etc.

We aren’t taken seriously as employees, caretakers, or people, so why should the books we read be any different?

Using the terms ‘not-so-dirty’ and ‘not-so-secret’ indicates that there is actually a reason why we should consider the genre dirty or worth keeping a secret. There isn’t.

But let’s move on to the part that really gets my goat.

So, some people clearly need a lesson in respect and I’m going to offer it, free of charge.

You can dislike something without tearing down what other people enjoy.

Let me say that again.

YOU. A HUMAN BEING WITH YOUR OWN THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. CAN ENJOY SOMETHING. AND CHOOSE NOT TO DISPARAGE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE LIKE IF IT HAPPENS TO BE DIFFERENT FROM YOU.

Crazy, right?

No, not really. It’s literally that simple.

Here’s the fucking tea: If you read books, you should respect books. You can be obsessed with a genre, hate reading in another, and still respect that the books have merit, value, and a story to tell that is important to another person. Books are this beautiful, universal thread that allows us to share the same journey but experience it in different ways. That is a beautiful thing. So why disparage it?

If you have to degrade a genre and its readers for an ego boost as a fucking reader, you should probably analyze that a bit. The books you read do not determine your worth. I am not a better person for reading Brave New World compared to reading The Duchess Deal. In fact, I feel like I gained an even wider perspective on women’s position in society from reading romance than I ever received from what is deemed as literature of “worth.”

Do not sit there and try to validate this inherently patriarchal guilt you pretend not to have over reading “chick-lit” by degrading romance.

I’m happy for you and your Ivy League education, your male-dominated job, and your boyfriend, but guess what? I have an Ivy League education too.

AND I READY SOME STEAMY ASS MOTHER-FUCKING ROMANCE NOVELS AND AM STILL ABLE TO BE A FUNCTIONING MEMBER OF SOCIETY THAT IS EQUALLY AS INTELLIGENT BEFORE I READ THE BOOK AS AFTER.

Want to know what is the best part? Romance HELPS me. I found romance at one of the hardest parts of my life, and it has served a beautiful purpose or reminding me of the power of women, love, and emotions. I write romance as a creative escape that allows me to explore one of the most beautiful emotions in the human experience.

Romance novels make me laugh, cry, and experience love in hundreds of different ways in different times, places, and people. Is that not amazing?

Romance helps me to appreciate my partner more. It encourages me to embrace my sexuality. It inspired me to start writing. It motivates me to be a braver woman, stronger friend, supportive partner.

So, if you ever find yourself in a situation where you want to trivialize a genre because you think it will make you smarter, more interesting, or increase your worth, I would encourage you to take ten steps back, check your ego, and shut your mouth. You don’t have to personally enjoy something for it to be valid.

So, happy Thursday to all my “mommy porn” addicts out there. I see you, I respect you, keep doing your thing. May we know them, may we love them, may we raise them.

Cover Reveal Alert! Applied Electromagnetism

Hellooooooo Romancelandia! It’s been a minute. I’ve been sick and sprinting to the end of school (now dragging my limp body across the finish line because of said sickness) and a million other things that have resulted in my poor baby blog’s neglect!

I am thrilled to be a part of Susannah Nix’s cover reveal for the fourth installment of her Chemistry Lessons series. I love this series. The heroines are sharp, real, and gotta root for a gal in STEM. This one sounds amazing and I can’t wait to get my grubby hands on a copy.

Without further ado:

ISN’T SHE GORGEOUS 😍😍😍😍😍

SYNOPSIS:

A business trip with the office hottie turns into the road trip from hell.
Adam Cortinas may be gorgeous, but he’s made it clear he can’t stand Olivia—and the feeling is one hundred percent mutual. Too bad, because in order to bring the company’s new power plant online, they’re stuck with each other for the next week.


When their travel plans go horribly awry, Olivia finds herself stranded in the middle of nowhere with Adam, AKA the bane of her existence. 


He’s in her space and in her head. All the forced proximity is driving Olivia insane. That’s the only explanation for these FEELINGS she’s suddenly having. 

But it doesn’t change anything. They still hate each other.

Right?


Applied Electromagnetism is the fourth full-length novel in a series of standalone rom-coms about women in STEM, and the follow-up to 2019 RITA Award Finalist Advanced Physical Chemistry. Each book in the series features a new couple with their own HEA and can be read in any order.

I seriously love this series and also highly recommend the audiobooks!

Make sure to add it to your GoodReads list HERE

Release day is July 2nd, so make sure you PREORDER it at any of the links listed below:
AMAZON US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QSSP2JV

AMAZON UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07QSSP2JV
AMAZON CA: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B07QSSP2JV
AMAZON AU: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B07QSSP2JV

APPLE: https://books.apple.com/us/book/applied-electromagnetism/id1460037147
B&N: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/books/1131279355?ean=2940156463305
KOBO: https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/applied-electromagnetism-1
GOOGLE PLAY: https://play.google.com/store/books/details/Susannah_Nix_Applied_Electromagnetism?id=QMmSDwAAQBAJ

AUTHOR BIO:

Susannah Nix is a RITA-nominated romance author who lives in Texas with her husband, two ornery cats, and a flatulent pit bull. When she’s not writing, she enjoys reading, cooking, knitting, watching stupid amounts of television, and getting distracted by Tumblr. She is also a powerlifter who can deadlift as much as Captain America weighs.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susannahnix/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susannahnixauthor/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Susannah_Nix
Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/susannah_nix
BookBub: https://www.bookbub.com/authors/susannah-nix
Web Site: http://www.susannahnix.com/

OTHER BOOKS IN THE SERIES:


o Remedial Rocket Science (Chemistry Lessons #1)
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0721MYNL5
Apple: http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1383979971
Nook: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/remedial-rocket-science-susannah-nix/1128682243
Kobo: https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/remedial-rocket-science-1
Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/books/details?id=Xo9aDwAAQBAJ

o Intermediate Thermodynamics (Chemistry Lessons #2)
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B074HLQHPP
Apple: http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1384176371
Nook: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/intermediate-thermodynamics-susannah-nix/1128682201
Kobo: https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/intermediate-thermodynamics-1
Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/books/details?id=Yo9aDwAAQBAJ


o Advanced Physical Chemistry* (Chemistry Lessons #3)
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07958H7M8
Apple: http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/id1384178964
Nook: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/advanced-physical-chemistry-susannah-nix/1128682175
Kobo: https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/advanced-physical-chemistry
Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/books/details?id=Zo9aDwAAQBAJ

*2019 RITA Award Finalist in Mid-Length Contemporary Romance

I Accidentally Turned My Dad’s Amazon Page into a Big Ole’ Smutfest*

*I mean smut in the best way possible. I use the term smut like I do bitch, with the greatest of love and zero shame

So. It happened.

I have accidentally transformed my dad’s Amazon Homepage into a glorious romance novel collage.

Here’s the backstory: My dad has Prime. I do not. I’m usually so good at switching between accounts so all of my kindle purchases are on my account and the rather ‘shocking’ covers (to a dad) are reserved to my recent browsing, not his.

Alas, I knew the day would come.

I slipped up.

Here’s what happened:

My friend, Eliza, was recommending Captivated by Tessa Bailey and Eve Dangerfield. I went on GoodReads to do some research. Grump hero? Heroine does whip-its and harbors injured pigeons? Kidnap fantasy? Sure. Let’s do this funky thing.

I click through to the Amazon page, hover over the buy button. And that’s when I see my dad’s name. Everywhere.

I cannot even begin to describe the anxiety clench my body did as I realized I almost sent my dad a dirty talking book with a major kink factor and a minor drug problem (just guessing on that last part based on the blurb but anything is possible).

BUT I DIDN’T!

No big deal, right? He will never know about this little faux pas, right?

Here is what I did not anticipate, those goddamn, no good, awful, tattletale

RECENTLY VIEWED

My dad’s Amazon home-screen now looks like this:

Oh, were you looking for headphones, Dad?

And this:

Celebrate Dad indeed.

So. Moving on.